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#MyTotalMommyMakeover The Challenge Begins

[ This post was cross-posted at Fit Happy Little Momma on November 21, 2018. ]

#MyTotalMommyMakeover is a direct result of hitting the big 4-0 on February 20th. To celebrate, I decided this is going to be the year of me. To purge, delete, replace, or add whatever I need to in order to be my happiest, most at-peace self.

Part of that is losing the 80 pounds of anxiety, depression, and internal abuse scars. To finally be free to live.

Really live.

Like, you know, be happy without feeling guilty, worrying about when the other shoe is going to drop, or letting someone else have so much power over my emotions/happiness/peace. Reclaiming my personal power and empowering others to do the same.

Yeah, this is going to be so amazeballs.

To make this happen, I decided I was going to give myself a Total Mommy Makeover. It’s an ambitious goal that I’ve failed at before because I lacked a Circle of Support.

This time, I won’t be alone. I have a fabulous coach, supportive physician, and a group of like-minded  individuals on their own wellness journey. I’ve also got my Everyday Superhero: CJ, my 16-year old son.

CJ is going to be joining me on this journey. 😀

While his goal isn’t to lose weight, the workout program I chose should help him to get started on the 8 pack of his dreams.

Angles, Lighting, and Cover-Ups
This is a pic from last month. You won’t see a full body or no-makeup picture of me unless my ex-husband shared it.

In preparation for this monumental moment, a gallon of blood (it seemed like) was drawn and various tests run. Everything came back normal and my doc gave me his blessing (orders, really) to shed a few pounds (or 65).

The ideal weight for my 5’3″ frame ranges from 104 to 127 pounds. I currently weigh 187.

Losing 60 pounds would get me right to that top number.

Aiming for a total loss of 65 pounds would give me a little wiggle room for the inevitable weight fluctuation women experience monthly.

To be clear, my doctor just said he wanted to see a few pound weight loss by the next time he sees me. I am the one who decided to give myself a Total Mommy Makeover and losing 65 pounds is a part of that. I’ll be documenting this part over at Fit Happy Little Momma.


Losing weight isn’t the only part of this challenge. There are actually 6 major steps involved in my makeover (the ones I’ll document in this blog):

  1. Spiritual
    It’s amazing how much our spirituality has to do with our mindset. It doesn’t matter what religion you follow (or don’t follow). Our inner self, our spirituality, directly impacts our hope. Faith is simply the belief that all things work out for good and that everything has a reason, even if we don’t know what it is. Building spiritual muscles strengthens your resiliency and previously helped me combat depression and anxiety (but that’s a story for another time). 
  2. Emotional
    We all feel things and sometimes we all react out of our feelings. We get angry, sad, happy, mad, stressed out, etc. Most of the time, we’re good at “controlling ourselves” but we all need a way to deal with our emotions. We need positive outlets to honor our feels, feel our feels, and then let our feels go. Pent-up emotion can make us sick: tummy trouble, migraines, anxiety, high blood pressure, etc. 
  3. Wellness
    Weight is just one aspect of our physical wellness. If you want to be there long-term for your kids, aging parents, and even your sweet pets, then you HAVE to take care of yourself. I have two kids, my mom, and a menagerie to think about. I would also like to save my little corner of the world, one volunteer session at a time. Which means that I need to have the good vitals, energy, strength, flexibility, and stamina to keep up with it all. 
  4. Relationships
    One of the most important relationships we can have is with ourselves. I want to treat myself better than I have been by scheduling time for myself to de-stress. My relationships with my kids are also a priority. I’d like to add some Mommy and Me playdates/dates and camping trips to our schedule.
  5. Professional
    Instead of changing myself to be someone or something I’m not, I want to find and work with amazing people – like you! – who I can empower and inspire while being my authentic self. I’m a remote administrative support specialist (virtual assistant) but I’d love to mentor/coach and spare someone the pain and trouble I’ve gone through.
  6. Financial
    Let’s just acknowledge that I didn’t know what I was doing when I turned 18 and things didn’t get much better as I got older. My desire for a family, to belong, has caused me and my kids so much unnecessary drama. I was rejecting success because I wanted a family but you need money to raise a family and to live. That was dumb. (That’s why the free Money Smart workshops I volunteered to lead are so special to me!)

The Master Plan

My plan is to use a hybrid of:

Oh yeah, somewhere in there I’d like to completely transition my little household to vegan everything but realistically, it’s going to be a year-long journey. Mostly because I don’t know what I’m doing, don’t have a dummy proof transition menu, and it’s crazy how some vegan items aren’t actually vegan!


Fabulous, YOU are going to be my reason for not giving up.

Yeah, sure, I know the bullies and Debbie Downers in my life will try to use anything I post – even admitting my weight – as ammo to tear me down. Honestly, it’s worked in the past so why wouldn’t they keep trying to insult, berate, and mock me?

The difference is this time I don’t give a fig. I really don’t. I’m tired and you know what? I never claimed to be perfect or have all the answers. I just want to help who I can and fix what I can fix in this world.

After what feels like a gajillionty years of struggle, I’ve finally jumped off that rollercoaster.

Family is what you make it, home is where you feel like you can relax, and just being yourself is freedom. I’m ready to be 100% me. Not just me but the best version of me that I can be.

Hopefully, my journey will empower you to step out in faith and make your life what you want it to be. If I don’t inspire you, at least I’ll serve as a warning. 😆

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl Lane-Soliz | Mom. Writer. Blogger. Podcaster. | PearlLaneSoliz.com
Pearl Lane-Soliz

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